Dear One,

Happy holidays! And a special “hello” to all of those I’ve seen recently at my LA events. It’s been such a pleasure to meet many of you and I’ve been impressed with the changes we’re already seeing for you.

We’ve spent the latter half of December and will continue in early January at an amazing resort in Palm Springs visiting with various family and friends. Our favorite activity is floating down the Lazy River in inner tubes.

HOLIDAY HEARTBREAK

For some of you, the holidays are bad timing because things aren’t going well. A particularly painful situation is if you’ve suffered heartbreak, a death or a downturn in your life. I was asked a few times in my live workshops what to do about it.

Here are some suggestions:

1. Set an intention for what you want for these holidays and write it down.
2. Do some things differently. If you do the same things and something is missing – like your former partner – the absence will be glaring. But if you shake things up, not only are you allowing change and flow, but more importantly, you’re less likely to feel the loss.
3. A wonderful thing I see happening is materialism taking a back seat (It’s beginning to look a lot like Thanksgiving!). This allows for more connection and less busy-ness and I urge you to go for the love and not the gifts.
4. Don’t ignore your bad feelings or pain but instead, spill it all out in your journal, followed by what you’d LIKE to happen next. I’ve seen this simple act turn things completely around.

If you are REALLY ready to let go and be free in 2009 from heartbreak, then get our RELEASING A PERSON CD, now available as a download you can get NOW (or order the CD or tape to be shipped to you)

Have a magical holiday, and happy New Year!

love,
Kathryn

Dear One,

Ola! I’m writing from Cancun, where we’ve stayed for 3 weeks, including celebrating Thanksgiving with our beloved son, Calvin, who we finally pried away from his college girlfriend long enough to fly to us after almost a year. Calvin brought a tofurkey on ice so we vegetarians can have our usual Thanksgiving “bird.”

In case you are interested in this crazy life we are living (we call it the “Portable Lifestyle,”) you can hear a free teleseminar Jon and I taught on the subject by signing up at www.theportablelifestyle.com. We have inspired others to take their business on the road and travel at will, and with the economy doing flips, it’s a great time to increase your virtual income and travel to less expensive destinations.

Dating MORE THAN ONE Person!

I notice a kind of moral code that implies it’s wrong to play the field or and that you’re mean if you “reject” someone you’ve been seeing. This smacks of a strange emotional environment in which people do things they don’t want to do for the sake of saving hurt feelings.

The old adage “all’s fair in love” is not far wrong. Guilt is all too prevalent in dating, and it can inhibit you from feeling free to find love.

Many ask me if it’s okay to date more than one person. “Yes,” is my reply. Until you are committed to someone, you are dating. And the definition of dating is trying people on for size. There is nothing wrong with dating around, and no obligation to commit when you’re not feeling it. (And btw, this doesn’t mean you have to sleep with anyone either, until you’re ready.)

• Neither give in to nor apply emotional blackmail to try to progress a relationship. Evolution happens naturally.
• You can be honest if you are dating more than one person, but don’t feel you must disclose this. Until there is a commitment, it is implied.
• Don’t assume you are in a committed relationship until it is stated.
• If you have never imagined dating more than one person, imagine two people you find quite attractive being interested in you. And imagine yourself enjoying the attention freely, no guilt needed.

To attend my Spiritually Dating workshop on December 13th, sign up SOON. It is known as the best singles workshop around. Or if you’re not in LA, get the How to Date Spiritually Teleseminar. These events – the Dating, Soulmate & Releasing Workshops plus 2 sessions of my Support Group -- are my only U.S. seminars in the U.S. for over a year

Talk to you soon!

love,
Kathryn

Hi from Kathryn
Dear one,

Hi! In light of the all the economy buzz, we’ve gotten some emails from people asking how we can still be traveling and staying at resorts.

We just celebrated our YEAR anniversary of embarking on this World Tour. If you are interested in how we have done this and how you can flourish even now, check out our new website: www.theportablelifestyle.com. So many have asked us how we’re living this way that we’re offering a FREE teleseminar to show you how to begin your own Portable Lifestyle. It’s surprisingly easy these days and more do-able than you could ever imagine.

We’re in South Florida right now, enjoying ocean time in Palm Beach after exploring the Gulf Coast on what we call a “driveabout.” We’ve seen old friends along the way and had some great meetings. We’ll head to the Keys shortly, and are excited about an airboat ride and cruise of the Inland Waterway.

Getting Past the HOTNESS BLOCK

I've been amazed at how many people unknowingly rule out anyone HOT to them. This is a major mistake. Why? Because the love of your life will be extremely attractive to you and therefore, you may automatically be excluding your soulmate as a possibility.

"Who ME?" you may ask. "Counting out someone HOT?! Are you crazy?!"

And yet so many do. How? By being able to talk to anyone EXCEPT someone hot. By getting too overawed to even CONNECT with someone hot. And by, when you are actually dating someone hot, being convinced they will lose interest any minute or worse, sabotaging it. Because your soulmate is HOT to you, this is a big issue when people do my work, mostly as they manifest and have to get used to having someone in their life that is SO attractive to them.

Your soulmate is someone to whom you're wildly attracted to. That's one way that you recognize them. And therefore, you're going to have go get used to hotness. They will think that YOU are hot, too. Here are ways to get past the "hotness block."

• Put your pedestal in storage. No one can stay up on a pedestal because we are all spiritually equal. Start seeing people as equals, even hot ones.
• Work on seeing yourself as God does, valuable, attractive and important. As you boost your own self-image, you won't tend to see anyone as out of your league (the truth).
• Make an effort to connect with anyone you are attracted to, even if it's just a smile and a wink.
• Remember that failure is not an option. It will flow with the right person, no matter what, and so there is no risk involved. Don't let fear stop you.

A sure method of going forward in faith and staying open to accept the love of your life is our 30 DAY SOULMATE BOOTCAMP. Not for the faint of heart, this intense daily program forces you to change and leave negativity and your past behind. To find out more, click here.

See you soon and have a happy Halloween!

love,
Kathryn

Dear one,

Hi! We are in Palm Springs now for a month, vacationing and catching up on work. It's a good place to have various family and friends come to visit and enjoy the resort with us. Catching up with our loved ones has been extremely heartwarming, and I enjoy cooking my vegetarian fare for them.

I'm a big fan of FAITH but you shouldn't have to have it for long. Magnetizing your soulmate can be quick, as so many who do my work know. The trick is to get rid of anything in the way and ascend to a powerful magnetic level that unerringly draws in love.

Drawing in you soulmate, even having them show up at your doorstep, shouldn't be that hard. Not when you know the secrets to magnetizing your One.

You can activate within you something that simply cannot be denied, an energetic that goes out like a heat-seeking missile to pull in the love of your life.

The two most important ingredients for soulmate magnetization are:

1. FAITH: just starting to hope, then believe, then KNOW that you get love, that someone out there is just for you is extremely powerful. This is the energy that is activated in my work and explains why so many people manifest quickly upon reading my book, doing a live workshop or joining the Love Club.
   What can KEEP you from manifesting love quickly are opponents to faith: pessimism about love or your prospects for it, cynicism, skepticism and negative beliefs about dating. If you are REALLY in faith, you don't have to have it for long. Your love life will start cooking in a hurry.
2. CONFIDENCE: as you get clear that you get love, your energy changes. You don't put much pressure on any particular date or situation and further, you understand that you are not only lovable but irresistible to your soulmate. Exuding the energy of confidence is a powerful attractant. This is why many see a big increase in love interest even BEFORE their soulmate shows up.

Don't miss the FIRST FREE SOULMATE TELESEMINAR I've done since 2006. It's all about Soulmate Magnetization and you can join us by web or by phone for this amazing time. Sign up now here.

love,
Kathryn

Hi from Daytona, Florida,

where we're having a grand reunion with our older boys. It's the first time we've all been together in 2 years. Six year old Jon-Jon broke his arm when we were still in Panama, and that journey was really something, but he's on the mend.

Is it really possible to have a CLEAN breakup?

In a word: NO.

Many have an erroneous idea of closure, and it's not as simple as having an adult conversation after which it's all over and done. Most often, I see people using the idea of closure simply to FEED their attachment, with hopes of rekindling things.

There is the fact that you will always love people your ex. While bitter feelings may get in the way, unconditional love is real, and at some level, you will always care for (s)he who you've been close to.

More importantly, breaking up is a process. You will go through the stages of grief and have to be very careful through the BARGAINING phase in which you're tempted to compromise yourself to reunite.

I don't consider anyone even AVAILABLE for love until they've gone through most of their grieving. The good news is that this tricky business of breaking up can be done artfully and quickly with the right tools and guidance.

1. The key is to find resolution within that it IS over and that attachment is NOT love and isn't helpful.
2. Then, you must DISSOLVE THE ATTACHMENT.
3. After loosening the attachment, going forward into newness will relieve any lingering pain. You have BRIGHT DAYS ahead for you, and since you're not with your soulmate yet, THE BEST IS YET TO COME!

I'm teaching my once-a-year Releasing a Person workshop in August and am also training a group of psychologists in my release technique as well.

The RELEASING A PERSON CD is something people swear by and our new Release Kit is working miracles for those who thought they could never move on. If you are suffering, you owe it to yourself to get the help you need. There is joy and new life awaiting you beyond this!

I hope to see you really soon!

love,
Kathryn

Dear one,

Hi and hope all is well! You may have heard I'm doing something that I said I wouldn't do. Yes, I'm teaching ONE more workshop before Aug 2009! That's because I spent the time I was supposed to be teaching in DC on my book tour 2 years ago in a snowbank in a car with my mom, 5 month old Julian and a bunch of other stuck cars (it was a major blizzard!).

Ever since, I've been asked to make up the workshop, and I finally got a chance to while we're still on the East Coast. SO, toward the end of March, I'm heading to DC to make good on my makeup promise.

If you can get to DC for my MANIFEST YOUR SOULMATE WORKSHOP (SOLD OUT this past Dec in LA) on Sat, March 21st, click here to find out more. Maybe it's YOUR TIME!

A DATING NECESSITY THAT MAY SCARE YOU

Part of being single and dating can be frightening: the fact that you must make yourself vulnerable to getting hurt. People try to compensate for this in many ways. Examples:

• Being the one to always end it first to avoid being the 'dumpee'
• Finding trivial reasons to get turned off by someone
• Being skeptical from the start, guarding your heart too carefully and bailing at the first sign of trouble (even thought this behavior may very well have caused the trouble to begin with)
• Avoiding dating at all, loudly proclaiming you're happy single, but really, you just don't want to make yourself vulnerable

We all have our ways of protecting our hearts, but I think that it gets in the way of finding love. Vulnerability is the path to love, as scary as that may be. We must trust that the Divine will protect our hearts and that we're okay to be single, dating and open, even if a few disappointments happen before our soulmate arrives.

A sure method of going forward in faith and staying open to accept the love of your life is our 30 DAY SOULMATE BOOTCAMP . Not for the faint of heart, this intense daily program forces you to change and break deep patterns of being closed to love. To find out more, click here.

Finally, so many of you have requested the music selections that I play in my workshops (to evoke a romantic mood or help recover from a breakup) that I put them up on iTunes. Find them by visiting the iTunes Store, click on "Music," then scroll down to click on "Imixes" (left), and then use the search button to search "Kathryn Alice" with the setting "mix title." You will come up with 4 mixes of my workshop music that you can use to help you in different ways.

Take good care, and I hope to see you soon!

love,
Kathryn

Dear one,

Hi from Big Bear, California where we are enjoying the snow - skiing and sledding. It was weird to go from 80 degrees in a bikini (Palm Springs) to freezing weather and needing to bundle up (Big Bear) in just a couple of hours.

THE STEALTH HURDLE TO LOVE?

9 times out of 10 when someone tells me they're not manifesting love, it's the same thing holding them back - something invisible to them. Even when they think they're doing well and should have found love long ago, I can usually see a pattern that keeps love at bay.

So what is this sneaky holdup to love? Your inner historian - the one that remembers all too well how you've been hurt and is therefore suspicious of perfectly innocent future dates. The one that reminds you that dating has always been hard and extrapolates that it will always be hard. It's the voice that tells you your ex is the best you'll ever do rather than let you focus on the (currently) nameless, faceless soulmate in your future. This same silent limit relegates you to a holding pattern, unable to move forward.

How can you dissolve this hurdle? I recommend three steps:

1. Catch yourself going down this old, tired road. Confront the old historian, saying "you again!" Become a detective for those negative ideas built on past experience that keep you scared to move forward.
2. Once you find these blocks, let them go. Say to yourself: "This is not true for me any more. I am not limited by the past. The best is yet to come!"
3. Learn to spend more time being optimistic and hopeful - daydreaming about what a perfect relationship will be like, looking around for examples of happy couples and seeing what qualities will work for you in a soulmate.

Hope and optimism are the magnets that will bring love right to your door!

If you have felt stuck for a long time, there is ONE product that has proven amazingly effective amongst those who had lost all hope. It is the 30 DAY SOULMATE BOOTCAMP, an intense and proven program that will crumble every wall you've had to love and change your life for good.

Take care, and I hope you are riding the big wave of change to what you want in your life, especially LOVE!

love,
Kathryn